Have you ever wanted something you don't really need?

I'm not talking about a newer car because yours has lived its life or a new computer that won't run newer software or another pair of shoes when you already have ____ pair (sorry ladies – I know, you both want and need new shoes).

I want a smart phone.  The phone I have now makes and answers calls.  I can text on it.  It's not broken.  The two-year activation period is over and it's time to update!  Happy Day!  Except for one thing – I don't need a smart phone.  And, I really don't need the extra $40 per month for the data plan, which you have to have with a smart phone.

In the past, when I wanted something (whether I needed it or not), I started a process with my wife that goes something like this:  I sow the seed, list all the advantages, cry a little (“I'm the only man in the universe who doesn't have a smart phone”), I make proposals, repeat the advantages, drag her to Verizon (and promise we won't buy anything today), and wear her down until she says OK.  What I've described in this paragraph is actually how I USED to do this process. I learned about 15 years ago it didn't work very well because I got what I wanted but the relationship was strained.

So here's my new process. I say “If and when it's time for me to get a smartphone, just let me know.  I won't pressure you or drag you to Verizon or whine (too much)”. Simple. Effective. Honest.

Is life about getting what we want or prizing what we have?  THE most important thing is our relationships!

BTW, if you have a better process – let me know!

I still want a smartphone.

Pastor Mark